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We talk a lot about words in this column. We don’t talk enough about images. Today, I find I just can’t stop looking at the images of Heidi and Gina Nortonsmith taken by staff photographer Melanie Stetson Freeman 20 years apart.
The story is about the landmark 2004 Massachusetts court decision legalizing same-sex marriage. The images contain more than words could ever say. They are radiant portraits of stability and trust and patience and such boundless joy. I look at them, and I feel I have shared some small fraction of two extraordinary lives.
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The controversy around the Pennsylvania senator’s strong support for Israel says as much about the evolution of the Democratic Party as about the nonconformist approach John Fetterman has taken to politics.
Sen. John Fetterman of Pennsylvania, to the dismay of many of his erstwhile progressive supporters, has emerged as perhaps the most outspoken supporter of Israel in the Democratic Party.
“There’s a very clear right side on this,” he says, comparing Hamas to the Confederacy in the U.S. Civil War and the Nazis in World War II. “That kind of evil cannot be allowed to operate. Because if it is, how are we ever going to have peace?”
His uncompromising stance has set him apart from many in his party, underscoring the extent to which the Democratic center of gravity on Israel has shifted. Some argue that if it’s now controversial for a Democrat to support the Middle East’s sole democracy, when dozens of its citizens are still being held hostage by a U.S.-designated terrorist organization, that says more about the party than about Mr. Fetterman.
But there’s also plenty to say about Mr. Fetterman, an unorthodox figure who seems to be finally finding his voice after a rough start to his Senate career.
“I think what he’s done is remarkable,” says Shawn Brokos, director of community security for the Jewish Federation of Greater Pittsburgh, speaking on a personal level. “Right now it feels like a lot of people are abandoning the Jewish community. And he is not.”
In the wake of the Oct. 7 attack on Israel, in which Hamas-led militants killed 1,200 people and kidnapped about 250 more, Sen. John Fetterman papered his office walls with pictures of the hostages.
He wore the Israeli flag like a cape to a pro-Israel march on the National Mall and waved it from the roof of his home as pro-Palestinian protesters chanting below accused him of “supporting genocide.”
He even broke ranks with President Joe Biden, who last week threatened to withhold U.S. military aid if Israel moved ahead with invading Rafah, the last Hamas stronghold in Gaza and refuge for hundreds of thousands of displaced Palestinian civilians.
“Hard disagree,” Senator Fetterman posted on X.
In short, he has arguably become the most outspoken supporter of Israel in the Democratic Party.
“There’s a very clear right side on this,” he says, comparing Hamas to the Confederacy in the U.S. Civil War and the Nazis in World War II. “That kind of evil cannot be allowed to operate. Because if it is, how are we ever going to have peace?”
His uncompromising stance has set him apart from many in his party, underscoring the extent to which the Democratic center of gravity on Israel has shifted left since last fall. Some argue that if it’s now controversial for a Democrat to support the Middle East’s sole democracy, when dozens of its citizens are still being held hostage by a U.S.-designated terrorist organization, that says more about the party than about Mr. Fetterman.
But there’s also plenty to say about Mr. Fetterman, an unorthodox figure who seems to be finally finding his voice after a rough start to his Senate career.
A larger-than-life politician, he was elected as an ally of the left. He officiated a 2013 same-sex marriage in defiance of Pennsylvania law as an “act of civil disobedience.” He wants to legalize weed and codify Roe v. Wade. He posts selfies from picket lines. But he has now rejected the label of “progressive” and is charting a path as a pragmatic Democrat. That has dismayed some voters who thought they were getting a burly version of Vermont Sen. Bernie Sanders, but it has also won plaudits from moderates and even Republicans, and elevated his profile.
“Is this the John Fetterman Pennsylvania elected?” asked a recent in-depth profile in Philadelphia magazine, which compared him to an “underground band from the 1980s that somehow finds itself scoring hit singles and Grammy nods a decade later.”
The truth is, John Fetterman has never fit into neat boxes. This is a man who earned a master’s degree from Harvard and then moved to a Rust Belt steel town, where he became mayor – for $150 a month. Married to a U.S. citizen brought to the country illegally by her Brazilian mother, he supports both border security and protections for “Dreamers.” Unlike many Democrats who want to curb reliance on fossil fuels, he opposed a moratorium on fracking, saying it would have taken away the jobs of Pennsylvanians. And now, even as a growing number of Democrats are calling on Israel to show restraint and prevent further killing of Palestinian civilians, he puts the onus on Hamas, which he says could end the war by returning the remaining hostages.
“The vocal stance that John has taken about Israel is something you can’t jump to easy assumptions about,” says Pat Clark, a community organizer in the Pittsburgh area who first met Mr. Fetterman in the mid-1990s, when the latter came to the city to run an AmeriCorps GED program.
Mr. Fetterman became a media darling back in the mid-2000s, as national reporters found an irresistible story in the tattooed mayor trying to revitalize Braddock, Pennsylvania, which is 70% Black.
He went on to become the state’s lieutenant governor and then mounted a bid for the U.S. Senate. While campaigning in May 2022, Mr. Fetterman suffered a major stroke that left him with auditory processing challenges. He narrowly won election with 51.2% of the vote, but six weeks into his first term sought treatment for clinical depression and didn’t return to the Senate for two months. He still uses live transcription on his phone to help him process reporters’ questions in the hallways.
Much of the early press coverage of the freshman senator, never known as a policy wonk, revolved around either his health or his flouting of the staid Senate dress code with his trademark Carhartt hoodie sweatshirts.
Then came Oct. 7. Hamas invaded Israel in what the group later told The New York Times was a calculated effort to “completely overthrow” the status quo and put the Palestinian cause back in the global spotlight. During the attack, fighters killed babies, raped women, and burned people alive.
“He was very shocked, upset, and deeply moved by what happened on Oct. 7,” says Mark Fichman, head of the Pittsburgh chapter of J Street, an advocacy group that describes itself as pro-Israel and pro-democracy.
Why Senator Fetterman, who is not Jewish, cares so much about Israel is something that ultimately only he can answer. But it’s clear he genuinely cares, says Mr. Fichman, who met with the senator about a week after the brutal cross-border attack.
In conversations leading up to their October meeting, Mr. Fichman adds, the senator openly admitted that Israel was an area about which he didn’t have extensive knowledge.
But one thing he did seem to have, Mr. Fichman observes, was a sincerely felt empathy for victims of violence.
It was the fatal shootings of two youths he worked with in Braddock that prompted him to run for mayor in 2004, Mr. Fetterman has said. He won by one vote. Two weeks into his tenure, a father about his age was shot and killed while delivering pizzas – “a senseless crime that affected me deeply,” the mayor would tell a reporter later.
Mr. Fetterman tattooed the date on his right forearm. Eight more such tattoos would follow, a list of losses literally etched onto his body.
Born in Pennsylvania, Senator Fetterman represents a state with the fifth-highest percentage of Jewish residents in the United States. And one where the threat of antisemitism is felt particularly keenly.
In October 2018, a shooter committed the worst act of violence against Jews in America’s history, killing 11 worshippers at the Tree of Life synagogue in Pittsburgh’s Squirrel Hill neighborhood. Mr. Fetterman joined a vigil that evening and later toured the synagogue and saw the bullet holes.
“You can’t be a part of that and have that not really change you,” Senator Fetterman told the Monitor.
It took nearly five years to bring the synagogue shooter to trial, a proceeding that reopened a raw wound for the Jewish community.
“When our community thought we could close the chapter on that, we woke up to the events from Oct. 7 – and it’s one more in a series of traumas that the Jewish community is facing,” says Shawn Brokos, director of community security for the Jewish Federation of Greater Pittsburgh. She says the number of antisemitic incidents spiked after Oct. 7, with a third of the year’s total coming in the last 2 1/2 months. This year, the number of incidents so far is about triple what Pittsburgh saw last year, from graffiti on Jewish schools to hoax bomb threats at synagogues.
It was against that backdrop that Senator Fetterman’s 2022 campaign vow to support Israel was put to the test.
Two weeks after the Oct. 7 attack, Senator Fetterman posted on X: “Two things can be true at the same time: I unequivocally stand with Israel and demand the immediate release of all hostages. I grieve for all innocent Palestinian lives lost. We must minimize suffering in Gaza and our humanitarian aid efforts must match the need.”
But his support for Israel’s efforts to root out Hamas in Gaza – including mass displacement of civilians, cutting off water for a week after the attack, and killing thousands of women and children – has rankled some of those who had helped him get to the Senate.
Last October, an open letter by 16 former unnamed Fetterman campaign staffers said that his push for unconditional U.S. military aid to Israel felt like a “gutting betrayal.”
“On the trail, your overarching promise was to ‘Forgotten Communities’ – people and places that get overlooked, written off, and left behind,” they wrote, saying it wasn’t too late to stand on the “righteous” side of history. “You can’t be a champion of forgotten communities if you cheerlead this war and the consequent destruction of Palestinian communities at home and abroad.”
But as the months passed, and pro-Palestinian campus protests spread across the nation, Senator Fetterman only became more pointed. He mocked the “pup tent intifada” on college campuses, urged unconditional support for Israel, and countered calls for an Israeli cease-fire by placing the blame for the humanitarian catastrophe in Gaza squarely on Hamas.
“Hamas fully owns and remains committed to the misery, deprivation, and trauma for Palestinians,” he wrote on May 5.
Many Republican and Orthodox Jewish voters in the Pittsburgh area were pleasantly surprised by how unmovable he was, digging in further as he received blowback. Politically, it may be boosting him overall; a January poll showed twice as many voters saying they viewed him more favorably as a result of his stance than those who viewed him less favorably.
Still, there are some in the largely progressive Jewish community of Pittsburgh who wish the senator would do more to support Palestinians – more than 35,000 of whom have been killed in Israel’s military offensive, according to the Hamas-run Gaza Ministry of Health, which does not distinguish between civilians and combatants.
And indeed, Mr. Fetterman’s stubbornly pro-Israel position stands in sharp contrast to that of a growing number of his Democratic colleagues in Congress.
J Street’s Mr. Fichman says there’s been a “sea change” within the party over the past six months when it comes to the U.S.-Israel relationship. Mainstream Democrats, including President Biden and Sen. Chuck Schumer, the Senate’s first Jewish majority leader, are now taking a closer look at how Israel is using U.S. military aid and whether it aligns with American values.
Mr. Fetterman’s stance has drawn ire on social media, with some antagonists “encouraging me to kill myself or hoping that I get a stroke,” says the senator. He adds that he doesn’t know how anyone thinks that will get him on their side. “But that’s not a side that I’m going to be on.”
Ms. Brokos, speaking on a personal level, says Senator Fetterman has been a “tremendous” ally – a “very visible” presence in the Pittsburgh Jewish community, from rallies to Shabbat services.
“I think what he’s done is remarkable, and it does give people a sense of hope,” she says. “Because right now it feels like a lot of people are abandoning the Jewish community. And he is not.”
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The United States recently completed a floating pier to deliver crucial humanitarian aid to Gaza. The effort also brings logistical and security challenges for U.S. forces.
The U.S. military says it has finished installing a temporary floating pier off the coast of Israel, a vital step toward delivering desperately needed food to Gaza.
The pier will be used as a route into the 25-mile-long Gaza Strip, which doesn’t having a working port of its own and has seen land routes blocked by war.
The primary staging ground for this delivery of humanitarian aid via sea will be a floating road-and-dock system. Civilian contractors who are not American citizens will be driving the trucks along a causeway and onto the beach.
Initially, the pier will bring an estimated 90 truckloads of humanitarian aid into Gaza each day. Once it’s fully operational, that number “should jump to about 150 truckloads,” according to the U.S. Department of Defense, or enough food for roughly 2 million meals per day.
The Pentagon has repeatedly emphasized that there will be no U.S. boots on the ground as part of the Gaza pier operation, which involves some 1,000 American service members.
The U.S. military says it has finished installing a temporary floating pier off the coast of Israel, a vital step toward delivering desperately needed food into Gaza.
The pier will be used as a route into the 25-mile-long Gaza Strip, which doesn’t having a working port of its own and has seen land routes blocked by war.
Strong winds and high sea swells initially prevented the U.S. military from emplacing the pier. It was anchored to a beach in Gaza at about 7:40 a.m. Gaza time on Thursday, according to U.S. Central Command.
The primary staging ground for this delivery of humanitarian aid via sea will be a floating road-and-dock system that the U.S. Defense Department, in its affinity for acronyms, has dubbed Joint Logistics Over-the-Shore, or JLOTS.
The first key component of the structure is a floating platform 72 feet wide and 270 feet long that’s located roughly 3 miles off the coast of Gaza.
This is where ships leaving Cyprus loaded with humanitarian aid collected by the U.S. Agency for International Development and other international partners will dock. Next, cargo will be deposited onto trucks parked aboard U.S. Army watercraft waiting at the floating platform.
Because the water near the shore is too shallow for big vessels, these smaller U.S. Army transport boats will then ferry the trucks filled with humanitarian aid to the system’s second key component: an 1,800-foot-long, two-lane floating causeway.
Civilian contractors who are not American citizens will be driving the trucks along the causeway and onto the beach, and the United Nations will oversee aid distribution.
Initially, the pier will bring an estimated 90 truckloads of humanitarian aid into Gaza each day.
Once it’s fully operational, that number “should jump to about 150 truckloads,” or enough food for roughly 2 million meals per day, according to Deputy Defense Department Press Secretary Sabrina Singh.
“We’re going to start with an initial small amount of aid trucks to flow in to make sure that the system works, that the distribution works, and then you’ll see that increase” before reaching full operational capacity, she said.
Still, Pentagon officials say that using the pier to deliver aid is not ideal, and that land routes would be better.
“We do want to see those [land crossings] opened up,” Ms. Singh said last week. “It’s meant to help augment, to help complement, other ways that aid can get in.”
The Pentagon has repeatedly emphasized that there will be no U.S. boots on the ground as part of the Gaza pier operation, which involves some 1,000 American service members.
Still, the question of safety to U.S. forces is one that Mark Milley, former chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, was asked to address in April congressional testimony.
He acknowledged that it’s possible that U.S. troops could come under fire.
Because U.S. troops will not step foot on land, however, and because Hamas has “limited and inaccurate fires available from rockets and mortars,” the risk to U.S. troops is small, says retired Col. Mark Cancian, senior adviser to the International Security Program at the Center for Strategic and International Studies.
Yet though these fires are inaccurate, Hamas “might eventually get a hit,” he adds.
“This is a combat zone,” Maj. Gen. Pat Ryder, the Pentagon press secretary, said last Thursday. “It’s a dangerous area.”
When asked whether the United States was in communication with Hamas leaders “to make sure that they’re not going to try to scuttle this” pier operation, he said there are “no conversations between DOD and Hamas.”
That said, Major General Ryder added, there’s “no intelligence at this point in time to indicate that Hamas is actively targeting JLOTS or the humanitarian assistance.”
The “significant force protection” security around the pier operations is a “prudent measure” and “sufficient to support execution of the mission,” a senior U.S. defense official said in a background briefing last month.
“But importantly, we reassess security every single day,” the official added.
To help mitigate risk of “friendly fire” attacks, the Pentagon and the Israel Defense Forces have established a deconfliction process to coordinate the humanitarian operations on the pier.
This is also meant to avert the sort of tragedy that occurred with the World Central Kitchen in April, when Israel launched an airstrike on the organization’s clearly marked vehicles, accidentally killing seven aid workers. This occurred even though the charity had cleared its movements with the IDF, which had reportedly approved the delivery.
As for the coordination between the IDF and the U.S. military, Ms. Singh said, “We are confident that we are in a good place.”
War can create uncomfortable common ground between opponents. In Gaza, political interests of the leaders of Israel and Hamas may be helping to extend the conflict despite negotiators’ urgent efforts.
It’s a label the leaders of Israel and Hamas would likely reject. But Hamas commander Yehia Sinwar and Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, already bitter rivals, have become something else as well: allies.
Whatever arrangement emerges for governing a postwar Gaza, one consensus assumption has emerged for Israel as well Washington and key Arab Gulf states: Mr. Sinwar’s Hamas would no longer be in charge.
Meanwhile, Mr. Netanyahu confronts the aftermath of a cataclysmic attack that his security forces failed to anticipate and to which the military responded only slowly.
Yet both men have every reason to feel they’ve been gaining politically from the war. Hamas has survived the full force of Israel’s military. Mr. Netanyahu’s single-minded focus, batting aside international criticism, has kept most Israelis on board.
For mediators increasingly desperate to get a cease-fire, there’s recognition they may need to tailor any agreement in such a way both leaders feel they can present as a political victory. The United States and its allies recognize that the alternative – further fighting and suffering, and very likely deaths for both Palestinians and the Gaza hostages – will make that goal even more difficult.
Hamas commander Yehia Sinwar and Israel’s Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, who are driving the war in Gaza, are bitter rivals. Yet amid the deadlocked international efforts to secure a cease-fire, these two men have become something else as well.
Allies.
While they would doubtless reject that label, it is clear to the would-be mediators that both men share compelling personal and political reasons to want to stave off a negotiated end to the conflict.
And that presents a formidable challenge for U.S. and Arab diplomats straining to halt the fighting and relieve a mounting humanitarian crisis, both for hundreds of thousands of Palestinian civilians in Gaza and for the dozens of Israeli hostages Hamas still holds.
Both leaders know a moment of reckoning awaits when the fighting is over, and that they might well not survive it politically. For Mr. Sinwar, the stakes are even higher: not just power, but potentially his life.
The Hamas leader provoked the war. Last Oct. 7, his units swarmed across the border, beating, abducting, and killing more than a thousand civilians. The Israeli response, which he surely anticipated, was a declaration of war, a vow to dismantle Hamas’ hold on Gaza and to target Mr. Sinwar and other Hamas commanders.
And whatever arrangement emerges for governing Gaza when the war finally ends, one consensus assumption, not just for Israel but also for Washington and key Arab Gulf states, has emerged: Hamas would no longer be in charge.
Mr. Netanyahu, meanwhile, is also keen to avoid a political reckoning.
The country’s longest-serving prime minister, he has built his career on an image of strength, as Israel’s “Mr. Security.”
Yet he was at the helm on Oct. 7, the most deadly attack on Jewish civilians since the Holocaust – an attack his security forces failed to anticipate, and that the military not only failed to prevent, but also proved agonizingly slow in confronting.
A hefty majority of Israelis have told pollsters they hold him politically responsible.
Mr. Netanyahu has so far fended off all calls to acknowledge responsibility. Instead, while saying there will clearly be questions for all involved to answer, he’s insisted that accountability must wait until the war is over.
The challenge facing international efforts to secure a cease-fire is not just the rival leaders’ clear reluctance to facilitate such a deal.
It is that both men have every reason to feel they’ve been gaining politically from the war.
Mr. Sinwar will feel Hamas has triumphed simply by surviving the full force of Israel’s military. In fact, his forces have begun to regroup in areas of northern Gaza that, a few months ago, Israel had declared cleared of Hamas fighters.
As for the price paid by Gaza’s civilians – well over 30,000 dead, and devastating property and infrastructure damage – the Hamas line is that this is Israel’s doing. Caring for the hundreds of thousands of people displaced, wounded, or hungry is the responsibility of aid organizations.
Mr. Sinwar has also watched as the deepening humanitarian crisis and Israel’s determination to do irrevocable damage to Hamas’ power have caused an unprecedented strain in Israel’s ties with international allies – including its most important, the United States.
Yet Mr. Netanyahu has gained as well, and not just by deferring any political reckoning.
His single-minded focus on the war, and on batting aside international criticism of the way it’s being waged, has so far kept most Israelis on board. He’s actually seen his polling numbers rebound somewhat from their nosedive after Oct. 7.
And critically, he’s been able to retain his parliamentary majority, which relies on a pair of far-right, overtly anti-Arab parties that want even more force used in Gaza.
All of that has brought a mounting frustration, and a deeper sense of urgency, about getting a cease-fire and a release of hostages in exchange for the freeing of Palestinians in Israeli jails.
The hope is that a mixture of carrot and stick can yet unblock the Israeli and Hamas leaders’ resistance.
The stick? Political pressure, mostly from Washington on Israel, and from key Arab states on Hamas.
So far, that’s not worked.
But in Israel, pressure on Mr. Netanyahu has been growing from the families, friends, and supporters of the hostages. There have also been leaked reports of frustration among top military officers about his failure to set out a coherent and achievable end goal for the war. Those feelings could gather further strength, given the army’s need to go back into parts of Gaza it had attacked and cleared of Hamas forces months earlier in the war.
Still, there’s a recognition that some form of a carrot may also be needed: a way to tailor any agreement in such a way both leaders feel they can present as a political victory.
A tall order? Yes.
But the U.S. and its allies recognize that the alternative – further fighting, further suffering, and very likely deaths for both Palestinians and the Gaza hostages – will make the ultimate goal of negotiating an end to the war even more difficult.
Friday marks the 20th anniversary of the first same-sex marriages in the United States. Two Massachusetts couples reflect on how they felt at the time – and on what marriage equality has meant to them since.
Heidi and Gina Nortonsmith tied the knot 20 years ago this Friday in a Northampton, Massachusetts, park with their sons and close friends. They combined their individual surnames, Norton and Smith, which they engraved on silver bracelets for each family member.
Before they wed, Heidi and Gina were starting a family and looking for legal protections to raise their children. But they quickly found there weren’t many for same-sex couples. In the case of an emergency, only one parent, Heidi, who had carried the children, would be recognized.
“The law would consider Gina and our kids to be legal strangers. That was just really terrifying,” Heidi says.
That’s when the mothers joined six other couples suing the state in 2001 for the right to marry. The plaintiffs would eventually prevail, making Massachusetts the first state to allow same-sex marriage, with the first licenses granted May 17, 2004. The U.S. Supreme Court would later rule that same-sex marriage is a constitutional right in 2015.
“It’s important to mark the 20th anniversary and to celebrate it,” Gina says, “because it helps bring hope for the other work that is yet to be done.”
When Heidi and Gina Nortonsmith fought the state of Massachusetts for their right to marry in the early 2000s, they fought as a family.
As plaintiffs in what would become a historic case, the two mothers waited at home every morning for months, anticipating news of a decision. A bag packed with clothes for their two sons, Avery and Quinn, stood ready if a drive from Northampton to Boston for a press conference would be necessary.
The parents were one of seven same-sex couples suing the state in Goodridge v. Department of Public Health, a case that had been making its way through the Massachusetts court system since 2001. A Superior Court judge had ruled against the group in 2002. On a November morning in 2003, the long-awaited phone call about an appeal arrived.
“It was a frantic couple of hours just trying to wrap our brains around what we needed to do to drive to Boston for a week with two young boys,” Gina recalls over Zoom. “We still didn’t know what the decision was. We just knew it was coming that day.”
The family was still on the road when the decision came down around 10 a.m. From a local radio station, they learned that the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court had ruled in their favor – making the state the first in the United States to allow same-sex marriage. Heidi and Gina planned to wed the first day it would be allowed, May 17, 2004.
Massachusetts couples like Heidi and Gina, who are celebrating their 20th anniversaries this month, say the court’s decision ignited the nationwide fight to legalize same-sex marriage. Eventually, the U.S. Supreme Court would agree, declaring state bans unconstitutional in 2015. But it was the Bay State that first afforded legal protections to spouses and families. Along with long-fought-for nuptials, couples also got a sense of stability.
“It created a kind of security and safety for people that we didn’t used to have,” says Mary Ann Kowalski, who wed her partner, Aren Stone, in Cambridge, Massachusetts, in the first wave of marriages.
After getting a marriage license from Northampton City Hall, Heidi and Gina tied the knot 20 years ago this Friday in a nearby park with their sons and close friends. They combined their individual surnames, Norton and Smith, which they engraved on silver bracelets for each member of the family, along with the date.
“When our sons were born, we chose the name Nortonsmith for them. So we tell them that they came out as Nortonsmith, but we had to earn it,” Gina says.
Before they were legally able to wed, Heidi and Gina had started a family and were looking for legal protections to raise their children. But they quickly found there weren’t many for same-sex couples. In the case of an emergency, only one parent, Heidi, who had carried the children, would be recognized.
“The law would consider Gina and our kids to be legal strangers. That was just really terrifying,” Heidi says. That’s when the couple joined the Goodridge case in 2001 to change the law.
Marriage equality extended various legal protections to same-sex parents, such as the right to make medical decisions for their children, and access to family leave benefits and inheritance rights.
The decision to issue marriage licenses for same-sex couples in 2004 was historic for both spouses and families. A 2004 Boston Globe survey found that half of the couples who applied for licenses on the first day had been partners for at least a decade. Of those, 30% had children. Two-thirds of the applicants were women.
“You can’t overstate the importance of being fully yourself in your life,” Heidi says. “Once Gina and I were married, and we could say wife or spouse, people knew what that was. Everybody had the same frame of reference for what that relationship is and how you treat it.”
“We worked really hard for it,” Gina adds, referring to the right to marry. “There are still people who are unhappy about it and who are doing their darndest to get rid of it.”
In 2004, the atmosphere surrounding marriage equality in Massachusetts was a mix of excitement, controversy, and significant social change. For many, the legalization of same-sex marriages was an emotional moment and a rallying call for national awareness.
Ms. Stone, Ms. Kowalski’s wife, who sat on the Cambridge LGBTQ+ Commission for 10 years, says that with marriage equality, she could feel a little more comfortable and protected. But she says the debate in the state Legislature, which turned “ugly” at times, also educated the public about the ongoing struggles for same-sex couples.
“It just became so clear during all those legislative hearings how important it was. That if we lost, it would be a huge loss because we were not being seen as fully human,” Ms. Stone says, describing the debate that went on as the logistics of the law were hashed out.
“I think straight couples could see and understand what it’s like for gay people sometimes when they’re not accepted,” she adds.
Today, the first couples to wed 20 years ago are rooting for the next generation of LGBTQ+ young people, who can wed as they choose, but are fighting battles for different rights and protections. They also see some growth in cultural acceptance.
“Now people just talk about their husbands and wives just casually in movies,” Gina notes. “That’s a huge difference. It’s like it’s not even anything to remark upon. It’s just emblematic of how ingrained it is in society and how people understand that that’s an option everywhere.”
She observes that the things that felt impossible two decades ago, are now possible.
“It’s important to mark the 20th anniversary and to celebrate it,” she says, “because it helps bring hope for the other work that is yet to be done.”
In our progress roundup, we have two stories of meeting people where they are. In China, an electric vehicle company makes swapping the battery faster than charging the car. And in Pakistan, volunteer storytellers spread the joy of books to children in a spontaneous outdoor story time.
Some states in recent years have sought to tighten rules surrounding early and mail-in voting. But a recent study by the Center for Election Innovation & Research found that 97% of voting-age Americans can cast early ballots, and the number of people voting by mail has steadily increased.
The report found that 46 states and Washington, D.C., offer early in-person voting, and 37 of those jurisdictions allow mail-in ballots without an excuse. New York, Connecticut, and Massachusetts increased voting accessibility in response to the pandemic and have made some or all of the changes permanent. Voting access is especially high in the West.
Despite gains in accessibility, voting remains hardest in the South. David Becker, who founded The Center for Election Innovation & Research, said that having more voting options makes voting less susceptible to human error and “all kinds of circumstances.”
Sources: NPR, Fivethirtyeight
The new panels on the roof of the King’s College building are expected to generate about 123,000 kilowatt-hours of energy per year, which, combined with panels on nearby buildings, would lower the college’s electricity demand by 5.5%.
Workers welded the photovoltaic panels to the 500-year-old chapel’s recently added lead roof, taking care to avoid sparking fire in the timbers underneath. Other ancient cathedrals in Salisbury and Gloucester have installed solar panels in the last decade.
The chapel is a renowned architectural marvel, with soaring stained-glass windows and the world’s largest fan-vault ceiling. Critics have called the project “virtue signaling” and decried the alteration to the church’s aesthetics. But administrators have stood firm. “It’s not so much signaling virtue as signaling a clarion call for change,” Gillian Tett, the college’s provost, said. “Symbols reinforce what’s normal, and we’re trying to change what’s thought of as normal.”
Sources: Smithsonian Magazine, The New York Times
The 10-year plan includes a new cultural quarter in the country’s largest city, Contonou, and three additional museums across the country. The investment aims to make culture the second-largest share of the economy after agriculture.
One museum will address the history of slavery in the city of Ouidah, where the last recorded shipment of enslaved Africans headed for the United States departed in 1860. The museum in Porto Novo, the capital, will explore the culture and religion of Vodou. Another museum will explore the history of Dahomey, a kingdom that ruled what is now Benin from 1600 to 1904.
Benin hopes to build on the success of a 2022 exhibition of 26 artifacts that attracted 230,000 attendees. The government is also funding arts education and encouraging more private investment in arts institutions.
Source: The Art Newspaper
Though the government provides tuition-free, mandatory schooling for children ages 5 to 16, Pakistan has the second-highest school absentee rate in the world, according to the United Nations. The cost of books and uniforms can be prohibitively expensive for some families.
Kahaani Sawaari (School on Wheels), a program run by the nonprofit GoRead.pk, sends storytellers throughout underprivileged neighborhoods in Pakistan’s largest city. In alleyways, courtyards, and other outdoor spaces, they read aloud to any children who wish to listen. Since its inception in 2021, the program has reached more than 21,000 children.
The storytellers leave behind books for children to borrow, and GoRead also has volunteers who read aloud inside schools. Nusser Sayeed, GoRead’s director, said that “purposeful storytelling builds a child’s character and brings out the traits for success in life.”
Source: The Guardian
China represents three-fifths of global demand for EVs. But drivers may endure long lines at charging stations and then 50-minute waits for a full charge – major factors deterring new buyers. At special swap stations, EVs made by the Shanghai-based company Nio allow drivers to exchange a drained battery for a full one in as little as five minutes. Nio reported 40 million swaps in March, compared with 37 million charges at its public stations.
Nio customers choose between owning a battery or renting. Analysts say that battery leasing could appeal to commercial fleets by avoiding battery replacement costs, but that wider adoption of swapping is dependent on developing compatibility among brands.
Swapping stations cost between $200,000 and $500,000 to build. Last June, Beijing directed regional governments to improve charging infrastructure across the board.
Sources: Rest of World, Semafor, CNBC
Since 1990, the total number of armed conflicts worldwide has seldom dropped below a hundred. The world’s desire to prosecute those who start wars or commit war crimes, meanwhile, has grown. Last year alone, the number of cases brought before national courts for international crimes rose by 33%, according to an annual survey published in April.
Now the boundaries of such accountability face a new test. On Wednesday, the Paris Court of Appeal heard arguments challenging a warrant for the arrest of Syrian President Bashar al-Assad for war crimes. The case has broad ramifications for the principle of universal jurisdiction, or the idea that a country can prosecute war crimes committed outside its borders.
“Heads of State have been understood to be immune before foreign domestic courts,” a grouping of Syrian and international rights organizations wrote in a letter to the Paris court last week. “Ongoing impunity ... only serves to perpetuate the cycle of violence and suffering for victims and survivors. It undermines the international rule of law.”
When democratic societies prosecute war crimes, they set foundations for reconciliation by listening to victims. Perhaps more importantly, for societies resigned to injustice, they model the principle of equality before the law.
Since 1990, the total number of armed conflicts worldwide has seldom dropped below a hundred. The world’s desire to prosecute those who start wars or commit war crimes, meanwhile, has grown. Last year alone, the number of cases brought before national courts for international crimes rose by 33%, according to an annual survey published in April.
Now the boundaries of such accountability face a new test. On Wednesday, the Paris Court of Appeal heard arguments concerning a French arrest warrant for Syrian President Bashar al-Assad for war crimes. The case has broad ramifications for the principle of universal jurisdiction, or the idea that a country can prosecute war crimes committed outside its borders. No sitting head of state has ever faced charges in a foreign domestic court. A decision in Paris affirming equality before the law would mark a turning point in international justice.
For societies resigned to injustice, the debate alone matters.
“Heads of State have been understood to be immune before foreign domestic courts,” a grouping of Syrian and international rights organizations wrote in a letter to the Paris court last week. “Ongoing impunity ... only serves to perpetuate the cycle of violence and suffering for victims and survivors. It undermines the international rule of law.”
Dozens of prosecutions are underway in 13 countries involving individuals accused of crimes against humanity in 35 different states, according to the 2024 Universal Jurisdiction Annual Review. Charges include genocide, sexual violence, and financing of terrorism. Sixteen people were convicted last year outside their country of citizenship, all in European domestic courts.
In Syria, a brutal crackdown of peaceful protests in 2011 sparked a civil war that the Britain-based Syrian Observatory for Human Rights estimates has killed more than 500,000 people. Nearly 17 million need humanitarian assistance, the United Nations counts. More than 7 million are displaced.
A lower French court issued arrest warrants last November against Mr. Assad, his brother, and two generals for attacks against civilians involving chemical weapons in 2013. They represent four of 49 cases underway in nine European jurisdictions against Syrian nationals. Switzerland announced in March it would try one of Mr. Assad’s uncles. Courts in Germany and the Netherlands have already convicted lower-ranking Syrian officials.
In seeking clarity on the Assad warrant, French prosecutors have effectively asked the Paris court to establish a new benchmark for international law beyond the immediate case. “The issuance of this warrant raises a fundamental legal question about the immunity rationale enjoyed by heads of state,” they stated.
Their intention “to see this question decided by a higher court” underscores a core ideal of universal jurisdiction. When democratic societies prosecute war crimes, they set foundations for reconciliation by listening to victims and drawing on the investigative work of local civil society organizations. Perhaps more importantly, they uphold human dignity by modeling the principle of equality before the law.
Each weekday, the Monitor includes one clearly labeled religious article offering spiritual insight on contemporary issues, including the news. The publication – in its various forms – is produced for anyone who cares about the progress of the human endeavor around the world and seeks news reported with compassion, intelligence, and an essentially constructive lens. For many, that caring has religious roots. For many, it does not. The Monitor has always embraced both audiences. The Monitor is owned by a church – The First Church of Christ, Scientist, in Boston – whose founder was concerned with both the state of the world and the quality of available news.
Prayer helps us rise above a false responsibility for our loved ones to see more of the eternal harmony of God and God’s creation.
It seemed like a good idea. Wasn’t I just being loving? You see, I was concerned about choices made by someone close to me and felt compelled to discuss this with him. But the conversation didn’t go well. And afterward, things became awkward and unresolved.
Prayer is my solid go-to whenever I experience doubt, fear, illness, or even awkwardness. To me, prayer is a quiet communion with God – who is Love and Truth, the source of justice and mercy. These times of prayer are times of great humility, but they always result in spiritual growth.
What did I need to know? When I opened the Bible, I landed on the Sermon on the Mount’s instruction, “Judge not, that ye be not judged” (Matthew 7:1).
Was I really judging? I could feel the self-justification rising. I was just trying to be helpful!
Christian Science brings out how constructive correction can be when it’s based on the affirmation that we’re God’s spiritual creation – entirely good, complete, and whole – leaving no room for wrong activity. But if our actions are premised on a mistaken concept of man as broken, lacking, or misguided, there’s often worry, pressure, or manipulation involved. And no, these don’t effectively lead to solutions.
I thought about my concerns. Were they based on seeing this individual’s innate goodness – and trusting in his ability to express that in being good and doing good? I squirmed. They were not.
The Sermon on the Mount includes the Golden Rule of treating others as one would want to be treated by them (see Matthew 7:12). I realized that to be genuinely loving is to see one another as God sees each one of us – just how we would love to be seen and known. Making God’s perspective our perspective helps to uplift and empower ourselves and others – and causes us to abandon a personal sense of judgment. Mary Baker Eddy, the discoverer of Christian Science, writes, “When will the world cease to judge of causes from a personal sense of things, conjectural and misapprehensive!” (“Miscellaneous Writings 1883-1896,” p. 290). As the Gospel of John says, “Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment” (7:24).
How does God judge? God judges with righteousness – seeing us not as flawed mortals, but as the divine reflection of His infinite love and perfection (see I John 3:2).
And God’s judgment stands! Ever since this experience, I’ve been free of these burdensome concerns. I affirmed this dear one’s resourcefulness, boundless sense of adventure, and deep compassion, as I would normally do. Our Father-Mother God knows and loves Her creation infinitely and intimately. As I grew in trusting this person, me, and all God’s creation to God’s guidance, I was able to let go of the false sense of responsibility I had taken on for this individual.
Shortly thereafter, we had a helpful, constructive talk, and our natural respect and happy camaraderie were restored. Later, he shared some surprising and promising solutions that I found he had been exploring all along.
But there was more going on here. I felt buoyant! Not only was I freed of a personal sense of judging another, but a hidden fear of facing opinions and criticisms – a concern about others’ judgment of me – was lifted at the same time. I saw myself unburdened and free to be the fuller expression of what God has made me.
I was singing along with “a louder song” that, in Mrs. Eddy’s words, is reaching toward heaven. She writes, “A louder song, sweeter than has ever before reached high heaven, now rises clearer and nearer to the great heart of Christ; for the accuser is not there, and Love sends forth her primal and everlasting strain” (“Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures,” p. 568).
God, Love, alone is our Judge. There are no accusers where Love is present, which is everywhere. We can be honest and constant in our expressions of love and compassion, judging “righteous judgment.” In yielding to divine Love and discerning and dispensing with any sinful, personal sense, we more actively embrace the infinite possibilities of God. And so, we find that our relationships with others and our understanding of ourselves include increasing joy and freedom.
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