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In high school, when I started dating the woman who would become my wife, I was immediately attracted by her hilarious, off-color quips. And she totally got my wry jokes. Neither of us would make it on the stand-up comedy circuit. But a shared sense of humor, according to a new dating app, is key to a good relationship.

The Smile app identifies your style of humor by showing video clips of say “The Office,” “Friends,” and “The Late Show with Stephen Colbert.” If you laugh, tap the heart. After creating a humor profile – using eight styles ranging from sarcastic to self-deprecating – you’re given possible dating matches.

The app taps research done by Jeffrey A. Hall, a professor at the University of Kansas. Dr. Hall’s findings say that humor underlies successful relationships because it confirms to your partner that you “get” them. “When people have a shared sense of humor, they reveal themselves as having a similar outlook on the world. Perhaps just as importantly, it opens them up to playfulness,” says Dr. Hall, an adviser to Smile. 

Dating apps, Dr. Hall suggests, are often based on the applicant’s not-quite-accurate self-descriptions. But humor, he says, is hard to fake. A 2019 Pew Research study found that while 30% of U.S. adults have used a dating app or website, only 12% said they found a long-term relationship via online dating.

The founder of Smile, Melissa Mullen, who has a background in physics and software development, says she has been an active – and disappointed – user of dating apps. Her epiphany came when she realized her most successful dates were with men who could make her laugh. She’s been working on the Smile app for more than a year. The official launch is June 1. 

Does laughter really lead to lasting love? We’ll see. But I can confirm after more than 40 years, my wife still makes me smile. 


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Matthew VanDyke (center), founder of the nonprofit Sons of Liberty International, which brings former U.S. military trainers to train Ukrainians for the battlefield, stands with former Marine Corps infantryman Erik Inbody (left) and former U.S. Army combat medic Jason (right), at their hotel room headquarters in Lviv, Ukraine, May 1, 2022.

What motivates American veterans to make personal and financial sacrifices to help Ukrainians? Our reporter talks to U.S. veterans in Lviv, Ukraine, about the moral clarity and historical precedents that drive their choices.

Patterns

Tracing global connections

The 1919 Treaty of Versailles and the Yalta Conference in 1945 offer two historic models of postwar settlements that the West might want to learn from – and avoid – in Ukraine.

The invasion of Ukraine dramatically shifted any trust in Russia, especially in Finland. Our reporter looks at how history and geography fed the near-universal change among Finns.

In rural Georgia, our reporter explores why local Republicans champion environmental stewardship in opposing a new Rivian truck factory, while the GOP governor backs economic and racial equality.

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Difference-maker

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Kalen McAllister, founder of Laughing Bear Bakery, packages Bear Candy made by employees with criminal records. “I don’t care [about a job applicant’s criminal record]. Because for me, it’s this day forward,” she says.

At this St. Louis bakery, a criminal background doesn’t define you. Our reporter finds redemption and hope amid the measuring cups. 


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Retired Gen. Paulino Coronado, the commander of soldiers who committed extrajudicial executions, hugs Blanca Nubia Monroy, the mother of victim Julian Oviedo Monroy, during a reconciliation event in Soacha, Colombia, May 10, 2022.

If Gustavo Petro becomes president of Colombia in an election later this month or in a June runoff, as opinion polls suggest, observers may note a trend in Latin America: In recent years voters from Mexico to Chile have tossed out entrenched right-wing governments. Yet that would not mean the region is turning left. Most Latinos describe themselves as centrist. They seek change to reduce economic disparities and create more inclusive societies.

For sure, Mr. Petro would be Colombia’s first leftist president. His running mate, Francia Márquez, would be the first woman and person of African heritage elected vice president. But his rise would be relevant far beyond his politics or within the region’s geographic boundaries. His biography holds a lesson for societies on how to disarm insurgencies and terrorist movements through reconciliation and political accommodation.

In his youth Mr. Petro was active in Colombia’s 19th of April Movement, or M-19, a faction that sought democratic change through guerrilla tactics in the 1970s and 1980s. The group morphed into a political party following a 1990 peace accord with the government. Several of its members went on to impactful political careers. Mr. Petro, a trained economist, served two terms as mayor of the capital, Bogotá.

Colombia replicated its model in a 2016 agreement that ended a 52-year war with another guerrilla faction known by its Spanish acronym, FARC. The deal guaranteed political inclusion for disarmament.

In one form or another, similar peacemaking dialogues are underway in communities along Pakistan’s border with Afghanistan and in countries battling Islamist groups in Africa’s Sahel region. “The best thing we can do for peace is to reintegrate those who, in the moment of despair, became terrorists but now want to become citizens and to contribute to the well-being of their brothers and sisters,” said United Nations Secretary-General António Guterres during a visit last week to camps for demobilizing jihadis in Maiduguri, Nigeria.

Persuading guerrillas to seek change by ballots rather than by bullets takes patience. As several African countries have discovered, former anti-colonial liberation movements often struggled when they moved from bush camps to the halls of power. But there is a growing consensus, among academics if not diplomats, that the international community’s standard post-conflict formula of organizing elections and promoting civil society has been ineffective.

Uruguay illustrates the ultimate dividend of bringing former rebels and their support networks into democracy. In the mid-1980s, a newly elected government offered amnesty to imprisoned members of a leftist group called the Tupamaros following the collapse of an authoritarian regime. The group formed a new political coalition and, within 20 years, won the presidency. Similar successful transitions have happened in Brazil and Bolivia.

“The ex-guerrillas tend to be the most consistently pragmatic and pro-democratic forces on the left,” Oxford Professor Timothy Power noted in the Miami Herald at the time. “Those who have been arrested, exiled, or tortured tend to value democracy and civil liberties more than other leftists who have not yet stuck their hand into the fire of repression.”

If Mr. Petro brings similar sentiments to Colombia’s presidency, it would represent quite a path from guerrilla to democratic politician. It is a path that offers hope to other societies working their way out of violent conflict.


A Christian Science Perspective

About this feature

Each weekday, the Monitor includes one clearly labeled religious article offering spiritual insight on contemporary issues, including the news. The publication – in its various forms – is produced for anyone who cares about the progress of the human endeavor around the world and seeks news reported with compassion, intelligence, and an essentially constructive lens. For many, that caring has religious roots. For many, it does not. The Monitor has always embraced both audiences. The Monitor is owned by a church – The First Church of Christ, Scientist, in Boston – whose founder was concerned with both the state of the world and the quality of available news.

When difficult circumstances arise, it can sometimes feel as if our only option is to passively wait things out. But an active alertness to inspiration from God brings strength, solutions, and joy, as a teacher experienced after feeling overwhelmed by the logistics of teaching during the pandemic.


A message of love

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A farmer carries a bundle of wheat on a farm in the Nile Delta province of al-Sharqia, Egypt, May 11, 2022. Egypt is trying to increase its domestic wheat production as the war in Ukraine has strained international supplies of the grain. Ukraine and Russia account for a third of global wheat and barley exports, which countries in the Middle East and Africa rely on.
( The illustrations in today’s Monitor Daily are by Jacob Turcotte and Karen Norris. )

A look ahead

Thanks for joining us. Come back tomorrow: We’ll have a review of a book by a philosopher recounting funny – and profound – conversations with his young sons about morals and the meaning of life.

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