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"How to spot a predator." Really?

'How to spot a predator.' Really? Our free-range parenting expert sounds off on some parents' continuing 'stranger danger' fears of child predators.

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"How to spot a predator." Really? Our free range parenting expert sounds off on some parents' continuing stranger danger fears of predators that lurk in parks and troll coffee shops for new victims. In an April 3, 2012 photo, signs and messages are posted on the front of the house and faded fliers are taped up on posts near the home of a baby allegedly kidnapped in Kansas City, Mo.

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Hi Readers.

Still trying to figure out what part of this Circle of Moms post, "How to Spot a Child Predator," irks me the most. It’s by a lady who was at a cafe and heard a man asking two third grade boys questions like, “What’s your favorite subject?” and “Who do you want to marry when you grow up?”

He also asked them some math problems, so the lady immediately “understood” what she was hearing:

"…like a thunderbolt, it hits me! Those boys are being groomed."

How exactly did she know he was up to no good? She trusted her gut. And now she wants the rest of us to trust it, too:

"I wrote this so you’d read about the types of questions a potential predator uses so you can prepare your kids.

Please don’t scare your kids, but do talk to them. Use these, or examples like them, so your kids know what bad strangers ask."

Except that there is no evidence whatsoever that this was a “bad stranger,”  or that these are the type of questions a bad stranger would ask!

It’s like saying, “I would have been raped by the man in the grocery store today if I hadn’t realized what he was up to! So I’m alerting the rest of you: If a man ever asks, ‘Do you know what aisle the paper towels are in?’ Run! He is a bad stranger. Don’t thank me – I’m just trying to help!”

Uh…thanks. But no thanks.

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