The Harbaugh way: 4 tips for parenting past sibling rivalry

What better way to get the growing family started on a right direction than taking some lessons from HarBowl 2013? In case you feel the same, I thought I’d share our Top Four Ways to Tackle Sibling Rivalry, courtesy of the Harbaughs.

4. Don’t let “sibling rivalry” define the relationship.

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Jim Harbaugh and brother John, despite the media headlines, don't want to talk about the rivalry at all. They don't let it define their relationship.

It can be easy for parents to start labeling their kids. You know, Big Sister is the smart one, Little Sister is the artistic one; Little Brother is disorganized and Big Brother gets good grades.

Try to avoid this, parenting experts say – you only set up a sense of competition.  As Dr. Bill Sears writes on his website: “Children are constantly being compared. Most of their life they will be rated on their performance: grades in school, the batting order on the baseball team, races and games among themselves. The home is the only organization left that values a child for himself and not in comparison with others. So, avoid comments like, 'Why can't you make good grades like your brother?”

The Harbaugh brothers have taken this to heart. They don’t really want to talk about the alleged rivalry coming up next week.

“Every moment that you're talking about myself or John, that's less time that the players are going to be talked about," Jim Harbaugh told reporters, saying that it was a “blessing” that his brother’s team made it to the Super Bowl, but a “curse” if all the talk about the HarBowl took away from the actual sport.

And as John Harbaugh told reporters this week:

"I guess it's pretty neat. But is it really going to be written about? It's not exactly like Churchill and Roosevelt or anything. It's pretty cool, but that's as far as it goes.”

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