When focusing on her marriage, Rubin resolved to "give gold stars" – or, in other words, ensure that her husband received appreciation and compliments. One way she tried to do so was making a fuss over achievements. "When something good happened to Jamie at work, or elsewhere, I made a big fuss, and I shared the news with Jamie's parents and my parents (he's very modest about touting his accomplishments)," Rubin wrote. "Studies show that celebrating good news, and showing the happiness you feel in your partner's accomplishments, small and large, strengthens a relationship."
