When Harden made the 1996 movie "The Spitfire Grill" with actress Ellen Burstyn, Burstyn offered her some important life lessons – and an acting tip that she will never forget. They were shooting a sad scene together one day and Harden didn't cry until it was time for her own close-up. "Ellen said, 'Don't ever do that again,' " Harden writes. " 'Had I seen that performance ... my own would have differed vastly.' 'But... but... what if I didn't have any tears left for my close-up?' I asked, mortified. 'How would I get there?' She answered firmly, 'I would be there for you. I would help you get there.'... Ellen doesn't believe that energy or strength is stolen but that it is shared, borrowed, expanded, until there is enough for everyone to grow."
